Yeah, the anon who replied after you kind of nailed down what's grinding my gears. Mostly the defensive thing, where you have to opine hard about stuff. (Not necessarily Hetalia fandom, either. I remember seeing some lambasting of a piece of official SnK art where a kid soldier (Eren, IDK how familiar anon is with it) is being comically terrified of his commanding officer Levi painting on his face for a punishment game (which is a scene that's been done in promotional art for other series), and there were people decrying it as more evidence that the pairing is abusive, etc, etc. It...it's a piece of silly promotional art.)
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