part 337 christmas in july miracles

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Meme! I almost thought I would never get to make a new post and say "Meme!! He updated! He really really updated! (which I'm sure most people in the fandom know by now!) In case you missed it JUST LOOK AT THIS. My goodness. A true, real Christmas In July miracle. ...... Wait it's August.

I feel silly now.

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[(Anonymous)]

Meme, do you think it's acceptable for someone to donate, sell or otherwise get rid of gifts that family or friends have given them?

[(Anonymous)]

it's acceptable if you want it to be acceptable.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say it really depends on how much sentimental value it holds to you and the person who gifted it to you.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, to an extent. I think it's unreasonable for people to expect you/whoever to keep gifts forever... I've had friends gift me dolls but I clear out my collection each year and often those dolls are just not ones I want to keep, and I donate or sell them. But if they were gifts that had a high sentimental value (like, a doll that was once their great-grandmothers or some other special value) then I would just pack it away instead of selling.

[(Anonymous)]

I suppose it depends?

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on the gift. I'd be iffy on getting rid of stuff with sentimental value or that was handmade. Other stuff is fine though, like the toiletries that relatives get me as gifts that I'll never use because I don't like the smell of them. I'm only a packrat with sentimental stuff, I rarely keep books after I've read them but I have about a decade's worth of christmas and birthday cards in a box somewhere for example.

On the other hand I wouldn't tell someone to keep something if they really wanted rid of it. That's their call.

[(Anonymous)]

like others said, it depends on the gift. it also depends on the relation. and it depends on how much time has passed.

friend gives me a thing casually, no big, i can donate it or whatever a few months down the line.

friend gives me an expensive thing (expensive for them) and/or one they made themselves and/or one that has a particular value like to commemorate our friendship in some way? i feel i need to keep that shirt. it could be a ugly as fuck shirt that i never wear except in this friend's presence, but i need to keep it.

and if it is an heirloom/irreplaceable/sentimental value, i feel like that's a definite keep for a long time at least, and if i really didn't want to keep it (no space, whatever), i should offer to give it back to the person who gave it to me, or give it to their family. i do not wear jewelry. i have been gifted some jewelry from my grandparents, and it's going to sit in a box forever but it means a lot to me because it means a lot to them. it truly is the thought that counts here, not whether or not i can make use of it.

likewise, time matters. like if i bought you something and you gave/sold it a week later, that is pretty damn rude and while i wouldn't necessarily get mad at you (i'll chalk it up to different sensibilities/culture) believe me i won't be spending much time or money on future gifts to you since you clearly don't care as much as i do. if i bought you something and you give/sell it months or a year later, it matters less - unless the thing was very significant in some way.

in all cases, i find it more acceptable to donate vs selling.